"Baby Café has been an invaluable resource for my son and I. Although already experienced in breastfeeding with my first son, my second son came with challenges that I needed help overcoming. I'm so thankful that Baby Café was there for us. There were many days where I was feeling depressed and close to giving up. Baby Café would help me through those darkest days. I always left the meetings feeling so uplifted, supported and understood.
Baby Café is a wonderful resource for expecting moms, first time moms, as well as more experienced moms. The lactation consultants are so knowledgeable and are there to support and guide you in whatever your breastfeeding journey may look like. The peer support is also such a help in the trialing days of motherhood. It's so nice to be in a room full of people that are going through the same things as you. I am forever grateful for Baby Café and all that they have done for my son and I this past year." - Alicia Rice, 2017
"When my baby boy was about a month old, my friend suggested that I go to Baby Café because we had been having to use a nipple shield pretty much since we came home from the hospital. Without it, my baby would not latch. With the amazing help and advice from Baby Café, within two weeks of seeing the lactation consultant we were able to completely get rid of the shield and we are going 5 months strong now! 💙😍 " - Tiffany, 2017
I initially went to Baby Cafe after struggling to breastfeed my first daughter. I was hesitant to go because I didn't know what to expect and didn't know anyone else who went. But another lactation consultant diagnosed my daughter with a tongue and lip tie. That coupled with my daughter not being able to gain weight, I figured it was worth a try. When I got there the lactation consultants and volunteers were incredibly helpful and welcoming. They asked my story and my goals. They never judged my choices and encouraged me in making some really tough decisions. They supported me through two tongue and lip tie procedures and helped me trouble shoot my daughter's continued eating problems. They believe breast is best but are always respect of moms' individual breastfeeding goals. They even helped me when I had no choice to supplement due to weight issues. Christine is a fountain of knowledge and the most supportive ever. Mary provides so much information and support backed by her years of nursing. I could not ask for a better support system during breastfeeding. When my second daughter began to struggle with breastfeeding as well, they were right there to help guide me through my new challenges. They will always be an important part of my breastfeeding journey and I could not have exclusively pumped for as long as I did without their help and encouragement. Baby Cafe is also amazing for connecting with other moms, feeling understood by people in your same situation and building lasting mom friends. Thank you, Baby Cafe. - Jan 2017
To all the Baby Cafe Bakersfield moms,
I'd like to share my story, that hopefully may provide some encouragement for moms struggling with breastfeeding. I am a second time Baby Cafe mom, beginning my journey in August 2014 with my daughter Haley, and now April 2016 with the birth of my son Cash. My view on breastfeeding prior to Haley was simple: I will breastfeed and life will be glorious! My only real experience with breastfeeding was watching my sister breastfeed all 4 of her children with ease. When Haley was born, the challenge became real and proved to be the most difficult journey of my life. She was severely tongue tied and after a tongue clip, 2 laser revisions, chiropractic body work and lots of tears, my breastfeeding journey turned in to providing nutrition to my daughter via exclusively pumping. It was not how I envisioned things to go, but I was proud of myself for my hard work and perseverance to get the nutrition to my baby. It was hard, and I struggled with the fact that I was married to a pump vs. skin to skin with my baby. I eventually came to terms with the fact that exclusively pumping IS in fact breastfeeding; just the hard way.
As the due date for my son approached, my fear of breastfeeding once again became real. I was not worried about labor, pain, managing 2 kids under 2, or how Haley would react to her brothers arrival. Breastfeeding was my concern that I was determined to get right! I told my story to the L&D nurse, and asked for immediate lactation support for my first breastfeed session following delivery. The hospital was very accommodating and provided wonderful support at 1am in the delivery room, and spent over an hour with me. I didn't really "know" what successful breastfeeding felt like, so even after a mostly successful session, I was still skeptical. I asked for lactation support from the hospital at every shift change and must have seen 6 different people helping me begin my breastfeeding journey while at the hospital. I asked a lot of questions, and looked for reassurance that my baby was transferring milk as he should. On the third day after my milk came in, breastfeeding became painful for me, with a lot of pinching, and I knew that instead of getting frustrated, I just needed more help. Baby Cafe was very helpful in reassuring me that he was indeed getting his nutrition and provided me with information on what could be contributing to the pinching pain. I continued to work hard with my son and by the end of Day 5, I became much more comfortable and was confident things were improving!
I am happy to report that I am exclusively breastfeeding comfortably and although still very early in this long journey, I feel good about our progress. The first few days are HARD - it's not easy and magical like it looks in the movies 🙃 To all the Baby Cafe moms who may be struggling, or who may have struggled and are anticipating baby #2, I hope my story inspires you to never give up! I'm tired, my breasts hurt, my body is still trying to understand how much milk to produce (apparently it thinks I need to nurse triplets right now 😝), and we have struggled with jaundice - but I've never been in better spirits. I am so thankful for Baby Cafe, the guidance and support they continue to give, and for all of the friends I've made in the process. 😍
Update: 8 months into my breastfeeding journey, I am happy to report that my baby and I are successfully nursing with no issues, and I have learned so much about the breastfeeding process that I have been able to help multiple friends who have recently had babies with breastfeeding! I feel so empowered with knowledge that I can confidently help new moms who have so many questions and are unsure about where to begin. And my experience helps other moms when I say "I know exactly what you are going through."